Life After the PCT: How to Keep Walking

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I met Zachary Kermicle through my cousin. Like most “trail people”, I was drawn immediately to his wit, humor, curiosity for life, and his insane ability to seep every ounce of consciousness from his adventures. Zac Lives Boldly.

We are all in such a hurry every day. Appointments, work, family, life, school … you name it. What I love most about the trail? The hurry of life disappears. You meet people over someone else’s timing, making it possible to create new connections. Simplicity trumps chaos as you realize how completely relatable that we all are to one another.

Enjoy my new trail friend, Zac. Originally from Nairobi, Kenya, he now resides in Colorado. An incredible 27 year old man, I’m thankful he has chosen to share a lesson learned from the Pacific Crest Trail with all of us. In his own words …

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Life After the PCT: How to Keep Walking

I just walked from Mexico to Canada. I hiked 2,650 miles over the course of 158 days. The PCT, or Pacific Crest Trail, courses through five national monuments, five state parks, six national parks, 25 national forest units, and 48 federal wilderness areas. The trail crosses over 57 major mountain passes and dips into 19 major canyons while meandering past more than 1,000 lakes and tarns. It may have been the hardest thing that I’ve ever done, but it was without a doubt the best experience of my life. And now, it’s over…

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Life on the trail teaches you many things.

From learning to appreciate each day for what it is, to taking those days just one at a time, the PCT is full of valuable life lessons. As a hiker, it’s up to us to then apply those lessons learned in an everyday manner, but sometimes that can prove to be difficult.

First and foremost, I didn’t want the trail to be over. I still don’t. The people that I met and the experiences that I had were so beautiful and so powerful that I have tears running down my face right now as I’m typing this. I miss my friends. I miss the quiet of the pine forests. I miss the simple day to day routine. I miss hiking…

Besides not wanting the hike to end, I wasn’t exactly stoked to return to ‘real life’ either. Not having much contact with the outside world for almost half a year couldn’t have come at a better time. I was not excited about plugging myself back in. My only real concerns on trail had been food, water, and shelter. That’s it. Life moved at 3 miles an hour, and you could really see it. You could smell it. I didn’t want to return to life at 60 m.p.h., with cell phones and Facebook, fluorescent lights and microwaves, Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton… But, I did. I had to. Knowing full well that it had to happen sometime, I got in a car and drove back into reality.

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I’ve now been done hiking for exactly one month.

I returned to my parents’ home in Madison, Wisconsin to visit friends and family, and to take some time to decompress and reflect on my journey. During the course of the last month, I’ve been thinking a lot about my fears. It’s funny, thinking about fear after having just completed something that encapsulates a lot of people’s fears in life. I went with little to no access to technology or the outside world. I ate boring food, and a lot of the same. I didn’t have regular access to showers or laundry, and the thought of using things like makeup or deodorant was laughable.

I was hot, hungry, sweaty, tired, cold, wet, and I hurt all over, but I’ve never been happier.

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The hardest part of the trail was finishing it.

I felt like Superman because of how impervious I was to things like physical pain or discomfort, the elements, and the mental challenge of walking almost 3,000 miles, yet when the trail started to come to a close, I was afraid. I was afraid of missing my trail family, of getting too settled back into ‘The Routine’, and of how long it was going to be before I could go adventuring again. I was afraid of forgetting how beautiful the simplicity of life on trail is, of going back to work and being seduced by comfort and technology and the almighty dollar. I was afraid, and I still am.

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I am afraid every single day that I will give in to my fears. The way I see it, you can let fear limit you, or you can let it empower you. You can be defined by how you cowered from your fear, or how you conquered it.

That moment in life when you choose to do something that you’re afraid of is one of the most powerful things a human can experience because of how much we grow in that moment.

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In the grand scheme of things, it doesn’t matter if our effort results in success or failure. What matters is that you tried – and, I’ll bet that you didn’t get the stones to try this new thing by thinking about all the ways that it could go wrong.

Action cures fear.

So, what’s all this mean? All of this reflection and creative writing means nothing if we can’t apply it to everyday life. It means you can do whatever you want, you simply have to try. It means recognizing what you’re afraid of, and then kicking that fear right in the ass: having the presence of mind to identify your fears, and having the mental fortitude to tackle them. It means realizing that we’re all afraid, some of us have simply found a way to use this toxin as a fuel.

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“Fear keeps us focused on the past or worried about the future. If we can acknowledge our fear, we can realize that right now we are okay. Right now, today, we are still alive, and our bodies are working marvelously. Our eyes can still see the beautiful sky.” Thich Nhat Hanh

What Would You Do?

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WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

October, 2016

We all know that Vulnerability creates human connection. To love another person, know yourself deeply, and in order to care for others, you have to be Vulnerable and give of yourself.

You set your own fears aside and say, “Here I am for you.” 

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I ask you this: “Could you be Vulnerable in order to make a difference and possibly save a life?” 

What Would You Do?

While eating dinner at a restaurant with friends in North Carolina last week, there was a young woman a few tables away having a seizure. The restaurant was in panic mode looking for a nurse or doctor.

I am Wilderness First Responder certified. According to protocol, we are not to assist patients unless we are IN the WILDERNESS. This was not the wilderness. I sat in my chair, deeply struggling with what to do. As I put my fork down, my heart had already left my body to go help this young woman. My left leg was begging me to leap out of my seat, while my right leg held me anchored to the table. I had never felt this way before, completely torn with RIGHT versus WRONG. Had I have gone to assist and someone found out, I could lose my certification. I need that certification to guide and hold retreats in the Grand Canyon. Had I not assisted, this young woman could potentially die. Not being able to just sit there, yet not knowing my intentions, I walked over to help the group of people now frantically hovered over this poor young woman. Thankfully, a nurses assistant appeared at the same time. She took over the patient while I took over the mom. The mom needed as much caring, love, and attention as her daughter. While I placed my hand on her back and talked her through what was occurring, I felt this tremendous amount of relief that I wasn’t forced to step in and save a life. I also felt a tremendous amount of guilt for not immediately assisting. What would I have done had the nurses assistant not been there? I honestly don’t know. I do know that I would have helped as best I could. There lies my struggle.

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HELPING OTHERS versus BYSTANDER EFFECT and the consequences of standing up

I thought about this situation on the flight home. While running, writing, stand up paddling ~ I couldn’t get it out of my head. Then this happened.

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A local man drowned in the Pacific Ocean last week. He was drunk, he stripped down naked, and swam straight out into the open water to his death. He apparently committed suicide. There were families on the beach that night. Yet how could this have happened? I was not there; I am not at liberty to judge. Mental illness or not, a lot of steps go into play in a man’s life before he finally gets to the point of drunk, naked, and dead in the Pacific Ocean. What if that man were my son, my father, friend, or nephew? What if that were me? It saddens me to think that I wouldn’t have been helped. What saddens me more is wondering if that man had been asking, “Why didn’t anyone stop me? Where is the lifeguard?” Unfortunately, we will never know. What Would You Do?

We all are held responsible for our actions in life. That said, we all have a choice to stand up to adversity. Many people have judged my decision to stay friends with my ex-husband after years of betrayal. People have asked, “Why?” I have responded, “Why not? I cannot live a life of anger and regret. In the end, I am not here to judge his actions. I choose to find the very good side of the man I once loved. We are all held accountable in our own way. What I can do is hold myself accountable by coming out of this stronger than I went in.” By being vulnerable and standing up to adversity, I helped save myself and our family. Yet I ask  …  What Would You Do?

Have people become so immune to vulnerability that deep empathy and human connection are no longer being made? Are we so into our phones, technology, and the internet that we are losing respect for ourselves and each other? Do we just not care enough anymore?

Perhaps it was how I was raised, in a small Midwest village without a stoplight. For the most part, we all looked out for each other. When a tornado ripped through our town in the middle of the night, everyone crawled from their mangled homes to assist their neighbors. Nobody said, “The next guy will take care of you.”

sarp_quoteWe all have to believe that WE can each make a difference. Relying on the “next person” doesn’t always work. We are the “next person.”

One person. ONE PERSON can stop a crime, a death, suicide, and devastation.

YOU have the logic, courage, and voice within to help others.

I Promise That I Would Help You.

Would You Do The Same For Me?

FEAR, AND WHY I LOVE IT!

Sara Schulting Kranz at Grand Canyon

FEAR, AND WHY I LOVE IT!

October, 2016

As we age, some people get more bold with their voice and actions while others snuggle into safety and accept “what is”. 

At some point, many of us wake up and ask,

“What happened? Who am I and how did I get to this place?”

I hear it all of the time. There are many reasons this happens, and the one I see most?

FEAR. Fear freezes a person. It throws us back into a state of second guessing ourselves. People choose to not take action steps out of fear. What if something happens? What if I don’t make the right choice?

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I’ve had a lot of practice with fear throughout my life. Fear of rejection. Fear of failure. Fear of divorce. Fear of being alone. Fear of speaking out. Fear of writing… and here I am.

I am heading TODAY to spend a week in the Appalachian Mountains in North Carolina to write a book about my life journey. It’s been nearly three years since I first found out that my husband was struggling with addiction issues and is gay. After seventeen years of a pretty happy marriage and having three strong boys, I had no idea. I’m a smart, educated woman, yet I felt so lost and alone. I was afraid to speak out for fear of being ridiculed, judged, and perhaps isolated along the way. I began healing how I knew best: by hiking mountains and the Grand Canyon, running trails, and stand up paddling hundreds of miles on the Pacific Ocean.

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I found support, I embraced my fears, I healed, and I moved on. I learned what I am made of.

I wanted to share what I had been through, but I didn’t know how. My fear was saying, “What if people turn on you? What if they question your clarity? Do you REALLY want to put your kids through this?”

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And then I asked myself, “What are you doing to yourself and others by NOT sharing your story?” I’m not being my authentic self. I’m not Valuing my words, my experiences, and my voice. I’m not honoring the hard-ass work that I have put in for the last three years to create a friendship and “new family” with my ex-husband. I’m not showing the world that, “YES, YOU CAN FORGIVE AND MOVE ON!”

You can love the new you.

So, I chose to write the book, starting with a trauma that occurred at age seventeen. The book proposal is nearly complete, and off I go on a Southwest flight to write about my life journey.

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People ask me all of the time,

How DO YOU get past fear?” 

Well,

“I freaking embrace the crap out of it.”

Fear can protect you from harm and give you an inclination that “something is not right.” And yet, if addressed correctly, it can teach you more about yourself than you would ever have imagined.

I want my kids to see that, when you embrace your fears and believe in yourself, ANYTHING is POSSIBLE! I want everyone that is suffering to feel empowered through these words to take one step forward.

A former client who I took on a Grand Canyon retreat sent me this quote last night (#timing!):

“Life Begins Outside of Your Comfort Zone”

He added, “Made me think of you. It’s your job to make people comfortable being uncomfortable, right?” Yes, it is my job. And it’s a pretty cool job to have.

HOW DID I GET TO THIS SPACE? Well… a few of my (not so secret) secrets:

1) SET GOALS: Start with writing down small goals. What is ONE THING that you can do now to move you forward? What can you do after that? And after that? Type them out, write them down. Place them where you can see them daily. Or better yet, make them your screensaver.

2) FIND VALUE IN WHAT YOU ARE DOING: If you find value in what you are doing, chances are (get this…) YOU WILL DO IT! When it has meaning, you will make it meaningful.

3) FIND YOUR INNER STRENGTH: We all have it! Think back to when you were a kid. Were you ever forced to stand up to someone? Did you ever have to make a choice to speak up because you knew it was the right thing to do? THAT, my friend, is your inner strength. Tap into it. Go there. USE IT!

4) LASTLY, GET OUTSIDE: Stretch your body, mind, spirit, and emotions. Find out how far that you really can allow yourself to go. Trust me, it’s further than you think. When you get to that “A-HA” moment of clarity, when you thought you were spent and realized that you can go further, you also realize that… life takes on new meaning in that space. I started guiding clients on Grand Canyon Hiking and Coaching Retreats because I experienced firsthand the life-altering shifts that occur in the Canyon. Life is a journey.

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My question, “What could happen if you DO try? If you are not happy in this space, what’s holding you back from taking the next step forward? What would you do if you knew that you could not fail?”

Embrace your Fears. Love Life. Live Boldly.

xo

Sara

(Or as my dad calls me, Honeybear… love you, Pops)

www.liveboldlycoaching.com

Loving Life & Living Boldly – “It’s how you handle the present moment that really can mold your future moments…”

Sara Schulting Kranz paddle boarding near a whale off the coast of Hermosa Beach

The following Excerpt was original published at Time of Your Life Now

I met Sara Schulting-Kranz in April while assisting at a course in Northern California. Her energy and enthusiasm were infectious but what really made me stop in my shoes and say ‘Whaaat!?!’ was a photo that a tourist on a whale watching boat took of her stand up paddle boarding (SUPing) with a whale. Sara recently went through a life-changing journey when her husband of 20 years dropped a bombshell on their family, resulting a transformational life and career change. Sara is now a life coach who combines her passion for adventure with helping others to be their best selves. Here is her story.

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Tell us about yourself and your lifestyle.

My name is Sara Schulting-Kranz and I reside in Hermosa Beach, California. Originally I am from a small farming town in the Midwest, Black Earth, Wisconsin – talk about polar opposites. My lifestyle consists of being a mom, best friend, adventurer, athlete, family secretary, volunteer, the list is endless. The aspect of my lifestyle I cherish the most is helping others by combining life coaching and adventure.  When you combine the two, powerful energies are created that empower people to go places they never thought possible. I would call my lifestyle ‘Loving Life & Living Boldly’!

I have hiked down into the Grand Canyon seven times.  I have hiked rim-to-rim in one day, twice. I have summited Mt. Whitney, climbed Half Dome, taken my kids on a 6-week road trip where we visited eleven National Parks, I ran a 50 mile ultra marathon three times, I scuba dive, and I have participated in the paddle-run-paddle two times. That is where you SUP (stand up paddle) 22 miles from the mainland to Catalina Island, run a marathon the next day, and then paddle home the third day.

I also love to camp under the stars, make fires, cook, drink wine with friends, play board games and cards, relax on a boat, be silly with my niece and nephews, watch my kids play sports, talk ‘life’ with our family, and I love love love the Holidays. I LOVE family traditions.

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Tell us about your past.

I have always been a person that loves adventure but even more so, loves life. I love trying new things, meeting new people, and helping others. I scuba dive, stand up paddle, run marathons/ultra-marathons, hike anywhere, love to road trip…pretty much, I will try it! Experiencing life by pushing myself to great lengths allows me to test myself and realize where I can really go with my mind, body and spirit. I came to a point where I loved having ME feel this awesomeness, but I really wanted others to feel it as well.  That’s the former teacher in me coming out: believing in everyone and wanting everyone to believe in themselves.

What prompted you to change your life?

My best friend/soon to be ex-husband (yup, I put those two phrases together) came to me recently, after nearly 20 years of marriage, and told me he was gay. That was a turning point in my life. How was I going to go on? What did my future look like? Is it possible in society to be best friends with your ex after so much pain, and what would people think? How do you raise three strong boys in this situation?  Then I realized something: you do exactly what you did when you took those last steps to climb Mt. Whitney, paddle 22 miles across the channel to Catalina Island, or run 50 miles in an ultra marathon.

You keep going. You keep putting one foot in front of the other. You don’t stop paddling, even when it hurts. To stop gets you nowhere. Instead, you believe in yourself.

You gain a new perspective when you are looking high from a mountain or paddling deep in the ocean with nothing but blue waters surrounding you. You realize that in the grand scheme of life, you are but a speck and shouldn’t care what others think or how they react. You are you. You make your own choices.  You learn from what is given to you and, in return, you can teach others.

So, I decided to forgive my best friend. We decided together to continue doing what we do best: be the best of friends, support each other’s dreams, live large, and teach our boys what it is to love yourself and others unconditionally.

Will everyone understand? No.

Do I care? Not really.

But if someone, anyone reads this and feels an ounce of ‘Wow, if she can do that, I can do this’, then THAT gives more credit to this journey, and makes it so worth sharing this story.

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